Love is a Skill You Can Practice

Do you find yourself saying, “Why does this always happen to me?” when a relationship ends? While we often blame the other person or bad luck, many recurring issues stem from our internal Love Habits. These are learned behaviors—some good, some detrimental—that we bring into every new romance. The Ahoxy Love Habits Assessment acts as a mirror to help you see how you are showing up in your relationships.

Common Romantic Habits to Watch Out For:

• The Rescuer: You are drawn to people who “need fixing.” This creates an imbalance of power and eventual resentment.
• The Shadow: You lose your identity the moment you start dating, adopting all of your partner’s hobbies and neglecting your own.
• The Tester: You create small “tests” for your partner to prove their love, which often leads to unnecessary drama and exhaustion for both of you.
• The Deflector: Using humor or dismissal every time a conversation gets serious or vulnerable.

Building “High-Value” Love Habits:

1. Radical Honesty with Yourself: Keep a journal of your feelings during the “honeymoon phase” and the first conflict to spot your specific patterns.
2. Setting Boundaries Early: Learn to say “No” to small things. A partner who respects small boundaries will respect big ones.
3. Mindful Communication: Practice the “Pause.” Before reacting in anger, take ten seconds to breathe and decide how you want to respond, rather than how you feel like responding.

Why use Ahoxy?

Change starts with awareness. You cannot fix what you cannot see. By auditing your habits, you give yourself the chance to stop being a “passenger” in your love life and start steering toward the healthy, fulfilling connection you deserve.

Your future self (and your future partner) will thank you. Take the audit now!